The Art of Breaking Cycles

I have lived my entire adult life breaking the chains that held me back, held me down, held me "victimized" by my own habits.  There is no doubt that many characteristics and habits are handed down from one generation to the other.  These cycles repeat themselves. Sometimes they are good. Sometimes they are destructive to our minds, bodies, and/or spirits. The theme of my book "Song Of Joy" is that I learned all of my life lessons from my mother.... The good, The bad, and The Ugly. There was so much good. But there was some bad, and a little ugly mixed in. I am thankful for it all because I learned from it all.

Some cycles are harder than other to break. But I have discovered, they can be broken. We can learn better, and do better. When I began my process three decades ago, the inspiration was my children. In many ways it still is, but my motivation has evolved. I am my inspiration. Even if I never married, or had children, I am worth breaking those generational chains, and building something new for my own future. 

These cycles can be anything from relationship habits, to parenting skills, to work ethics, to money management. I suppose it goes without saying, "or lack thereof", but there's that too.

I am a firm believer that life is about the choices we make. We may not be able to do anything about our past, or some abuse we survived. But we can do something about how we react now, and how we live tomorrow by developing proactive skills today. We can teach the old dog within some new tricks. We can decide that enough is enough, and our spouse deserve better, our kids deserve better, we deserve better.